He has had six weddings, two annulments and four divorces. But Pamela Anderson tells in a Netflix documentary that her first husband, Motley Crue drummer Tommy Lee, is the only man she’s ever truly loved.
In Pamela, A Love Story, released on Netflix on January 31, she tells her son Brandon, “I really loved your dad for all the right reasons and I don’t really think I ever loved anyone else.” He’s screwed.
She adds: ‘I think I’d rather be alone than not be with the father of my children. I think it’s impossible to be with someone else… but I also don’t think I can be with Tommy. It’s almost like a punishment.
Anderson, 55, was married to Lee between 1995 and 1998. They are known to have married on a beach in Cancun, Mexico, after a whirlwind four-day courtship.
Pamela Anderson tells in a Netflix documentary that her first husband, Motley Crue drummer Tommy Lee, is the only man she has truly loved.
The marriage ended after Lee assaulted her while she was holding their six-week-old son, Dylan. He was sentenced to six months in prison.
She is candid in the film about her romantic disasters: from an early love whom she caught washing his penis in the sink (“Suspicious,” she wrote in her journal) to her husband Rick Salomon, whom she married twice.
The first time the union ended after she says she found his crack pipe in the Christmas tree. “He still to this day denies it was his,” she says.
He also claims that actor Sylvester Stallone offered him a love contract. They dated in 1989 between Stallone’s second and third marriages.
Anderson, 55, was married to Lee from 1995 to 1998. They are known to have married on a beach in Cancun, Mexico, after dating for four days.
Anderson said: ‘He offered me a condo and a Porsche to be his number one girl and I said, ‘Does that mean there’s a number two girl? “Nuh huh.” And he’s like, ‘That’s the best offer you’re going to get honey, now you’re in Hollywood. But I wanted to be really in love, and I wanted nothing less than that.
Overall, Anderson has had six weddings, two annulments, and four divorces in her lifetime.
Other loves were the actors Mario Van Peebles, Scott Baio and David Charvet. At one point in the documentary, he reads an entry in his diary that says, “I woke up in Marios, went home to change, then went to Scott’s” and laughs and says, “Why would I write that because God wouldn’t do it?” Let’s make a documentary and find out what kind of whore you are!’
There are kind words for surfer Kelly Slater, but he was shocked to discover that his girlfriend, whom he was preparing to fly to Florida to meet her family, had married someone else: Tommy Lee.
Anderson tells the story of their romance for laughs, noting that she barely knew Lee and asking him what his married name would be (she thought his name was Tommy Lee Jones, mistaking him for the actor).
On their first night together, she took ecstasy with her champagne, and the night was “one big happy blur.”
She says: “What was different about Tommy was that there were no secrets, there was no deceit, there were no games, it was really an explosive kind of love filled with heart to heart.” We knew nothing about each other and it ended up being one of the wildest and most beautiful love affairs ever.
The marriage ended after Lee assaulted Anderson while she was holding their six-week-old son, Dylan. He was sentenced to six months in prison
She was devastated after losing her first baby to a miscarriage while filming Barb Wire. And after the birth of her eldest son, Brandon, there were ‘red flags’ in the behavior of Lee, whom she calls a ‘gifted romantic and a bad drunk’.
He was jealous, which she thought was ‘cute’ and would show up on the set of Baywatch and stand in her line of sight if she had romantic stories. After she kissed an actor for a story, he trashed her trailer on set.
She said the changes that came with family life made her husband feel left out, and in 1998 a fight broke out that ended the marriage.
‘I think Tommy went through a little postpartum… Tommy was saying I want my wife back I want my wife back. At that moment I didn’t know what to do.
“I just said, ‘I need a little help here, you have to grow up.’ It’s not about you anymore. She had never spoken to him like that before. I did not recognize him. She went black and then I started hyperventilating, scared. Brandon was shaking and screaming and holding my leg, so I called 911 and hung up.
Anderson said: “What was different about Tommy was that there were no secrets, there was no cheating, there were no games, it really was explosive heart-to-heart love.”
He was arrested and charged with spousal and child abuse, allegedly grabbing her arm and kicking her in the back, causing her to fall. Lee pleaded no contest to felony spousal battery and was sentenced to six months in jail.
Lee later said that he thought she had pressed charges because she “wanted an easy way out of a difficult situation”.
There were rumors that they might get married again in 1999, and in 2005 Lee said they were back together.
In the Netflix show, Anderson is filmed going through a stack of letters he wrote to her from prison. ‘He really fought for us to stay together. I had to split the divorce because he wouldn’t sign the papers. But it wasn’t a gray area for me, you can’t do that.’
She wrote in her diary: ‘I have never loved someone so deeply and by deeply I mean I loved their soul. I feel like a part of me has died.’ She says co-parenting her was never easy, as subsequent husbands disliked Lee.
“I think it comes down to me never getting over not being able to make it work with the father of my children.
“Even though I thought I could recreate a family or fall in love with someone else, it’s just not me.”
I think that’s probably why I keep failing in all my relationships. My parents were wild and crazy and hurt each other and us, but now they are happy.
With Kid Rock, she didn’t experience the ‘frenzy’ of her romance with Tommy Lee. She doesn’t even mention her brief marriage to movie mogul Jon Peters.
Her late husband, builder Dan Hayhurst, is fired within moments. She says: ‘he’s a good Canadian boy. Normal. I felt like he maybe needed to prove that. I don’t know Sometimes I don’t know if I’m alive or dead. I would love to live a romantic life every day.
Son Dylan says: ‘He loves to get married. You know, maybe it’s his favorite thing in the world.
Pamela, A Love Story, is on Netflix since January 31.